“You will find your joy when you stop looking for it outside yourself and instead look within.”
It’s so tempting to give people
credit for how you feel, isn’t it? It seems logical—things happen, you think about and process them, and then you feel a certain way because of it, right? That’s the way human beings work.
But maybe that’s not true. Imagine what it would feel like to take total responsibility for the way you feel… for the thoughts you choose to think and the emotions you choose to hold your focus on.
What would it be like to always know that no matter what, you have the power to choose to feel joy?
This is what “finding your joy within” means. It means that it’s no one else’s responsibility to make you happy. It means that even in what might seem to be the toughest of circumstances, you can look for things to focus on that will help you to feel better.
Here are 9 tips to help you find joy from within
1. Make lists daily of the things in your life that you appreciate.
And make the list because you truly want
to make it and because you really do
appreciate these things. This isn’t something that you can just go through the motions and get the benefit from it. You’ve got to hit pause on everything else, clear your mind, take a deep breath
and think about what you really appreciate right now
2. Tell everyone you know: “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.” And then demonstrate it.
Make a commitment to yourself to stop looking for reasons, blaming, or making mental lists of excuses as to why you aren’t happy. Take your power back
3. Look at challenges through the lens of: “what does this help me to clarify about what I want for my life?” Keep your focus on the answer.
Every challenge is an opportunity for us to learn more about ourselves and what we really want. Give your challenges an imaginary hug
and thank them for the chance to gain more clarity about yourself and your preferences for your life.
4. Adopt the affirmation: “things are always working out for me—whether I see the path right now or not.”
It feels good just to say that doesn’t it? You can’t help
but have amazing things happen when you adopt this attitude.
5. Let go of worrying about the “what ifs” and trying to control.
Worrying, what-iffing, and trying to control from a forceful stance is silly. Just let go, go with the flow
, and allow things to unfold. Take one step at a time, on a moment by moment basis toward what feels best based on the information you have right now. You might be surprised how well things can work out on their own when you let them.
6. Take care of yourself first, then others.
It sounds like a selfish
thing to say, but when you are well taken care of, you have more to offer others.
7. Evaluate, measure, compare less… a lot less.
Let your intuition guide you toward the things that fit you best rather than what you think you should do and/or what everybody else is doing.
8. Find positive things about yourself and celebrate them—be satisfied with who you are right now.
You are amazing right here and now in this moment. Own it. Flaunt it. BE IT. Not because you are trying to impress anyone, but because you deserve to experience what it feels like to completely love yourself
. You don’t need to change one thing in order to be perfect and worthy of happiness.
9. Embrace the journey.
When you look back at the end of your life, many of the things you thought were huge struggles could actually be seen as adventures on the ride of life
. It might seem odd to think of it that way, especially for those of us that want to achieve, prove, create results, make change for a better world… but it really does get you thinking—what’s the point of it all anyway? It’s not really to lose 5 pounds
or fit into your favorite pair of jeans, is it? Or in more general terms, we aren’t here to prove. Give yourself a break and enjoy the ride. Expand, learn, grow, interact, love, and experience life